>> I've also tried to be in the queer community... but eventually simply stopped going. I still haven't decided if it was just me being me or not.<<
Simple test for that: describe your experiences and then compare those to the experiences of other people. If there's no match, it's probably just you. The higher the overlap, the higher the chance that it's a pattern of oppression rather than an individual quirk.
>>Perhaps to give an analogy, is to liken the asexual to a spy. They look like "one of us", act like "one of us", and then they show their "true colors". What do you do to a spy?<<
That is a very astute observation, and I think it applies to a wide range of differences which are not immediately obvious (as contrasted with those that are, such as skin color).
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Simple test for that: describe your experiences and then compare those to the experiences of other people. If there's no match, it's probably just you. The higher the overlap, the higher the chance that it's a pattern of oppression rather than an individual quirk.
>>Perhaps to give an analogy, is to liken the asexual to a spy. They look like "one of us", act like "one of us", and then they show their "true colors". What do you do to a spy?<<
That is a very astute observation, and I think it applies to a wide range of differences which are not immediately obvious (as contrasted with those that are, such as skin color).