*sigh* This was nice to see. Thank you. Discussion. OMP. It might truly exist! :V
I'm not going to play "keyword bingo" this time with what you wrote, and I consider myself one of the lucky ones who's largely gotten acceptance from the people I know. But even then, I've gotten "joking" comments about being "unnatural" for being asexual from my own sister. I've also tried to be in the queer community... but eventually simply stopped going. I still haven't decided if it was just me being me or not.
Virginity: As for virginity... what the hell does virginity have to do with anything these days? Besides saying, "Yeah, I've done it." or not??? What kind of virginity are we talking about here? Penile to vagina? What about lesbian couples? Two men? Are we talking penetration? Masturbation? Or are we talking about the ones who are completely untouched?
Liars: Also, saying all asexuals are either afraid or lying isn't particularly bright in general either, IMO. Nothing is absolute and telling someone "this is why you do something" or for a particular reason precludes actually asking. Something I found while browsing through some quotes says: “Prejudice is a great time saver. You can form opinions without having to get the facts.”
In a way, being asexual is like a slap to the face of the majority. Humanity tends to be communal and, well, for lack of a more flattering adjective, mobbish, believing that another person is similar to oneself... When those beliefs are challenged, in this case, the belief that "everyone is a sexual being", the majority recoils and looks upon that "abnormality" as the betrayer and counterattacks the Other.
Perhaps to give an analogy, is to liken the asexual to a spy. They look like "one of us", act like "one of us", and then they show their "true colors". What do you do to a spy?
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I'm not going to play "keyword bingo" this time with what you wrote, and I consider myself one of the lucky ones who's largely gotten acceptance from the people I know. But even then, I've gotten "joking" comments about being "unnatural" for being asexual from my own sister. I've also tried to be in the queer community... but eventually simply stopped going. I still haven't decided if it was just me being me or not.
Virginity: As for virginity... what the hell does virginity have to do with anything these days? Besides saying, "Yeah, I've done it." or not??? What kind of virginity are we talking about here? Penile to vagina? What about lesbian couples? Two men? Are we talking penetration? Masturbation? Or are we talking about the ones who are completely untouched?
Liars: Also, saying all asexuals are either afraid or lying isn't particularly bright in general either, IMO. Nothing is absolute and telling someone "this is why you do something" or for a particular reason precludes actually asking. Something I found while browsing through some quotes says: “Prejudice is a great time saver. You can form opinions without having to get the facts.”
In a way, being asexual is like a slap to the face of the majority. Humanity tends to be communal and, well, for lack of a more flattering adjective, mobbish, believing that another person is similar to oneself... When those beliefs are challenged, in this case, the belief that "everyone is a sexual being", the majority recoils and looks upon that "abnormality" as the betrayer and counterattacks the Other.
Perhaps to give an analogy, is to liken the asexual to a spy. They look like "one of us", act like "one of us", and then they show their "true colors". What do you do to a spy?