potato_head: (angry)
This is just a reminder to my fellow trans* guys that the t-word is not ours to reclaim. A slur, at its most basic roots, is a reminder along the lines of 'I could kill you right now, and nobody would care'. Almost all (think 9 in 10 or more) trans* people killed in hate crimes are trans* women, and murderers of trans* men are much more likely to be brought to justice or at the very least acknowledged in the wider LGBT community. Murders of trans* women, especially WoC, often barely make local news.

Yes, there are people who use the t word towards trans* men. But it doesn't mean the same thing. It doesn't mean 'society would validate me for an act of violence towards you'. It is a comparison to trans* women. It generally (generally, not always) doesn't indicate that they're about to punish you for your existence through violence.

Yes, trans* men do suffer. Yes, we are sometimes the victims of hate crimes and more often the victims of discrimination due to our trans* status. And no, we do not have the same privileges as a cis man. But please remember that we do have male privilege, especially compared to trans* women, because they need all the support they can get. We cannot turn our backs on them. It is not acceptable to leave behind trans* women simply because society has deemed us more acceptable.

IDK if this really fits in here, but it's come up before when I've tried to have this conversation with certain guys I really respect but strongly disagree with on this issue. No, trans* men are not targeted less because of our invisibility. Perhaps a few decades ago that argument could have been made...but it is obvious, now, that we are being accorded some amount of male privilege. We are no longer invisible, and only a decade or so off the mark, we're being portrayed more sensitively in the media than trans* women are. If you're looking for some blatant evidence of this...trans* men in comedy movies are portrayed as sensitive and rounded characters, as well as Hollywood can do those things. Chaz Bono has been elected the 'trans* spokesperson' by cis people, despite the many trans* women who have been more than qualified to achieve fame in their own right - some of whom have, but nobody is asking them about their experiences, struggles, or views. We are not invisible, and we are gaining power while trans* women are being killed and nobody talks about it, and that isn't okay.

...I actually hadn't been planning to write that all up like, right now, but apparently it all wanted to come out. I had been planning on like. Links and stuff. Maybe I'll come back and add some. Er.
potato_head: (angry)
I've been hearing a lot of "this is why people don't take X movement seriously!" lately. So let's talk some feels about this concept and how it's actually about privilege.

I guess I should cut this )

(Sorry if this was less coherent than usual. I accidentally my eloquence. Or possibly never had any)
potato_head: (:3)
Bought a new binder over the weekend! The fact that I'm a 3-4XL in binder sizes was. Not a pleasant thing to be reminded of. But whatever.

I don't feel like making a proper post out of this but it is April 2 so I figured I would just throw this out here: Please don't 'light it up blue' as per Autism Speaks. They're a terrible organization and the brand of 'autism awareness' that they spread is dehumanizing. I know a lot of people not familiar with Autism Speaks don't actually even know it's going on, so as a heads up: all that puzzle piece crap all over the place is for Light It Up Blue/Autism Speaks as well.

Is there anything else I wanted to say?...No, I don't think so. I'm going to go draw some things 6 u 9


My life. (From here)

That's all.
potato_head: (angry)
Sometimes I miss things

Really, really important things

Two years from now I will hopefully be out of this country but right now that seems like a scarily long time away.
potato_head: (angry)
So you may have heard of Bobby Montoya, a young transgender girl that recently joined the Girl Scouts, predictably resulting in controversy. Well, the decision has apparently led to three troop leaders (not the ones leading Ms Montoya's troops - these three are in Louisiana, not Colorado) resigning, and dissolving their troops. The article; warning for Bobby's mom saying some somewhat ignorant things in the article, and I have managed to keep out of the comments but assume there is nothing good down there.

Here's the thing that struck me (emphasis mine):

Susan Bryant-Snure, one of the leaders who resigned, told The Baptist Press that the Girl Scouts' action is "extremely confusing" and an "almost dangerous situation" for children.

I continue to be at a loss regarding what about us is so dangerous. Apparently even children among us are 'almost' dangerous - that phrasing in and of itself is confusing to me. At what point does it become actually dangerous? When Bobby gets older? Or when the Girl Scouts begin allowing transgender troop leaders? Or is it something else?

Really though, what are they afraid of? I know some people (many people?) still think we're all sexual predators...is this just the extent of it, and some are just hesitant to say it in as many words, so they use vague references instead? Or is it that their fear is as nebulous as the words they use?

And no, it does not put me at ease that bigots fear us. Fear is, generally, what leads to hate, so it is not a surprise to me. Fear makes people do irrational and sometimes dangerous things.
potato_head: (6 u 9)
A somewhat belated response to [livejournal.com profile] ocelotofdoom's excellent tumblr post. Okay, pretty belated. I know I don't need an excuse but I have one anyway! I had three presentations this week, woke up in a bad mood that didn't go away for several days, and also my back violently disapproved of something I did Sunday and I'm still not 100%. Incidentally, that mini-shitstorm is why I haven't really been making any posts at all. Too busy sewing, listening to Miku on repeat, and taking alleve.

So originally this was a pretty big post and I had like a third of it finished and then I stepped away and LJ lost it all on me. I still want to talk about this though but I think new version!post will be more concise.

The Special Snowflake Witch Hunt )

So yeah, I think that's all I have to say on that. Also, my back is feeling less stiff so break time is over, back to sewing!
potato_head: (angry)
A thing that makes me angry: the attitude I have heard from some people (primarily the irritated privileged, but also IRL activists) that online activists/social justice bloggers/etc. etc. are 'just complaining' and 'should go do something' about whatever particular injustice they're talking about.

First of all, and I don't understand why this even needs to be said, but blogging is not actually an activity that takes forever. One person is actually perfectly capable of both blogging about social justice and actually doing activist activities IRL. Most SJ bloggers/online activists and so on that I know ARE activists IRL, to various extents.

Of course, I consider my willingness to talk at every opportunity about issues I'm concerned about, as well as answer pretty much any rude question about my trans status to be a variety of solo social activism, so maybe I've got some sort of bias going on here. At what point am I considered to be 'doing something' and am therefor allowed to blog about my opinions? Would somebody lay out the rules for me, please?

Oh right, IDGAF about the privilegebutt rules for activists, never mind 6 u 9

Okay, back on track. My second point issss...

Blogging and online activism IS 'doing something'. It's actually really fucking important, from where I'm sitting. The concept that the internet is in no way connected to the real world, and has no impact on it, is really fucking outdated.

Yeah, that last link is to a 'freedom of speech' article. Communication is, and always has been, one of the most powerful weapons of the oppressed against the oppressors. Since I know many of you are in the USA, I'll just throw this out: we have freedom of speech in our constitution because communication was what allowed us to unite and revolt in the first place.

There is a reason China restricts freedom of speech within their country, including blocking social networking sites. It isn't because they're afraid of people writing fanfic and blogging about sports.

Voicing opinions and thoughts is an important, empowering thing, especially for disenfranchised people. Having a place to go and discuss things and know a privileged person can't find a way to take that away from you is important. Being able to find people like yourself, knowing you are not ALONE, is VERY important, and can be SO difficult for many minorities, especially GLBTQ people, disabled people and other minorities who aren't often born automatically into an accepting community or family, and may not even be able to find any support in their physical area. Just the opportunity to connect, discuss, and rant with people who share experiences is invaluable.

Even more important, maybe, is just getting information out there. Providing resources for people - others in your group looking for information about who they are, what they can do for themselves; that it's okay to need what they need and to feel the way they feel. Resources for allies who want to help, but don't know where to start. Resources for people who didn't know they were allies until they came across a blog that helped them understand concepts like privilege, and made them want to help.

In conclusion: Your words have power. I dare you to use them. Come on, I'll race you to equality. Ready, set...!

ETA: adding a quick shoutout to [livejournal.com profile] ocelotofdoom for offering me examples and vetting my vocab words on demand, even if I never did use any of those examples, more the fool me for it. This post was so much more of a struggle than it should have been, guys, look how tiny it is.
potato_head: (kitty lick)
So I spent a lot of time thinking about this lately (and have apparently come to the conclusion that you guys care as much as I do about why I do the things I do). Basically, about why I acted the way I did on Saturday (spending most of my work breaks arguing with assholes on the internet despite the emotional stress it caused).

Are you liking the parentheses? I am thinking of concluding all of my thoughts with parenthetical clauses from now on (jk, jk).

Okay, srsface now:
Warning for brief mention of being suicidal )

So yes. That was a journey into introspection for me, which I thought some of you might find at least tangentially interesting.

In other news, I think I've actually narrowed my choices down to two names: Sydney and Cortland. I'm not going to rush into choosing though, since I learned my lesson last time after investing so much into Christian and then realizing I didn't like it at all. Although I think part of that mistake was my initial euphoria of 'OH MY GOD I CAN FINALLY HAVE A NAME THAT IS ACTUALLY ME'. As opposed to my current name which I just feel is something that people call me. Kind of like they're whistling at me like I'm a dog. Which is terrible, but I realized that's really how I feel about it, and it's why I'm not really participating in the ontdcreepy facebook page even though I want to...because obviously the only thing they have to call me by is my first name. Ugh.

Yes, I did just load this post with tags. Yes, they are all relevant.
potato_head: (kitty lick)
Sooo I know some of you saw that debacle. In sf_d. A lot of you probably didn't? But that's alright because I'm pretty sure the things I want to say here can stand completely separate from that, but I do have a few words to say on that first, as to why I'm now writing a post on it;

I was really actually very, very angry. That was pretty much the most pissed-off I can be; I was shaking with anger, light-headed, etc. With the main result being, as I said at the time, I couldn't get out everything I had to say. This can actually be pretty good for an actual discussion since as you all know I usually have a tendency to ramble on for PARAGRAPHS AND PARAGRAPHS, and when I'm that mad I kind of get straight to the point :P in fact, I'm rambling right now, so let me get to the point: I don't feel like I did justice to the point I wanted to make, and there are some things I wanted to discuss that wouldn't have been appropriate in the context of that um...discussion anyways. So I am going to talk about them now.

And I'd like to remind everybody again that I completely welcome discussion and debate. However, for probably the first time ever, I am also going to request that you stay respectful. I mean I generally trust all of y'all to do so but I feel like this is a topic on which emotions might run high.

Also, I would like to note that I have been struggling with how to write this for a few days now, because the fact is that I can't back up my points with personal experience, because I'm not asexual myself. The things I do know, that I am drawing some of my conclusions from, are very personal stories shared with me by my ace friends and acquaintances, and it's not my place to go telling those experiences to others.

So um, with that in mind, let's talk about this!

Hey look a cut )

I probably had more to say, but I feel out of words for now. So yes, I think that's it. Again, I welcome (and encourage) respectful discussion on the issue...as you (hopefully) realize by now, since that's basically my point; we have to talk about these things, not shut discussions down.
potato_head: (jesus had)
So just got back from my first shift back at work again (at a chain donut/coffee shop). We have new uniforms! Dark blue jeans, white polo t-shirt, and a brown apron. I have never actually gotten to wear an apron before but I personally think aprons are adorable and also I am adorable in an apron :D

Anyways, I was thinking about this at work (closing shift at DD's=lots of time to think, lol...more cleaning than customers) and figured I could write up a post on it.

Basically, this is in response to those religious (often Christian) people who believe trans people are not 'really' trans, specifically because "God doesn't make mistakes". I have A Lot Of Thoughts on this, but have never really written them out, since my general policy is to not engage people who are being deliberately transphobic; but I suppose I should not wait to be provoked to have my say.

This is probably obvious, but I'll just point out here that beyond the cut there is a lot of religious talk, specifically Christian-centric, and it will probably be very YMMV for other Christians as well depending on your personal beliefs. It will also be YMMV for other trans people, I expect. Basically, these are just my thoughts and my beliefs (and don't even come close to representing the whole of my beliefs), etc. etc., y'all are mature so I know you can handle that.

That said, let's go on a magical adventure~ )

(Also, I just realized this is both my only queer icon and my only religious icon, lololol)

(...religious icon. LOL. Get it? 6 u 9)

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