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potato_headMy mom was kind of horrible this weekend so I just need to vent a bit.
WARNING: I quote my mom under the cut, so there'll be some racist and probably also ableist remarks.
I fucking hate my mom.
Like...really.
I don't share it very often because she's very polite with guests, and all my friends looove her~ but with us she's emotionally abusive and I think legitimately unhinged. She seems to genuinely think that we are all conspiring against her. In fact, that's what the incident this weekend was about; she cooked a really horrible dinner - at a time when only she and I were home - and I made a good faith effort to eat it, then begged off on the rest because I 'wasn't hungry'. When Dad came home, he had my leftovers; Paige and Derek both had previous engagements to eat somewhere else. Around 8, Derek asked if he could order Domino's because apparently he hadn't eaten much; Dad agreed and we all got Domino's.
Mom decided it was Dad's idea (and tried to catch us in the lie - at one point she cornered the three of us and asked who's idea it was, and when Derek said it was his, she asked Paige and I if it was really his idea). She was on the phone when Dad went to ask her if she wanted anything, and she accused him of doing it just to embarrass her in front of her friend on the phone. She also made a few other wild accusations that I can't remember now; she wasn't really making a lot of sense TBH, which is typical for her when she's angry. Then she told us all she was 'sick of living in this white trash house' before locking herself in the bedroom for the rest of the night.
Apparently ordering Domino's makes us white trash? Classism aside, we're squarely in the center of middle-class, so I honestly have no idea what she was on about, unless she was just hurling classist slurrs in an attempt to make us feel bad.
Some notable past incidents include the time when she told me I was a 'horrible person' (I was 12 and had cleaned my room, but apparently not well enough); the time she called me a liar when I said I was upset because the 'friend' she kept inviting over for me had broken one of my CD's, covered it in shampoo, and dropped it down the laundry shoot; the time Paige was in tears because she was convinced that if she wasn't waiting in the front room when mom got home, mom would stop loving her.
She's also a bigot! Sometimes it's kind of lulzy (like when she saw nothing wrong with her statement that 'special ed kids are all really physically flexible') but most of the time it's embarrassing (like last vacation when we pulled up to the hotel and she saw there were a lot of POC around, and asked dad why he booked us at a 'colored hotel') or upsetting (like when she argued with Paige for an hour that her friend could not possibly be Christian because she was ethnically Korean and 'those people aren't Christian').
The worst part, though, is that it's just kind of...ongoing. She fights with dad at least once a week, often more. She gets angry over the most nonsensical things. She's made it pretty clear that she hates all of us, and she's only staying with dad because 'divorce is horrible for kids'. The three of us would rather they just divorce at this point =/
Anyways yeah emo time over now. Ummm I'm going to do a more fun post later this week but I can't decide if I should post about reiki or religion/faith (or both in one post?) or interpreting dreams because that came up on ontdcreepy the other day...IDK does any of y'all want to hear about anything in particular?
WARNING: I quote my mom under the cut, so there'll be some racist and probably also ableist remarks.
I fucking hate my mom.
Like...really.
I don't share it very often because she's very polite with guests, and all my friends looove her~ but with us she's emotionally abusive and I think legitimately unhinged. She seems to genuinely think that we are all conspiring against her. In fact, that's what the incident this weekend was about; she cooked a really horrible dinner - at a time when only she and I were home - and I made a good faith effort to eat it, then begged off on the rest because I 'wasn't hungry'. When Dad came home, he had my leftovers; Paige and Derek both had previous engagements to eat somewhere else. Around 8, Derek asked if he could order Domino's because apparently he hadn't eaten much; Dad agreed and we all got Domino's.
Mom decided it was Dad's idea (and tried to catch us in the lie - at one point she cornered the three of us and asked who's idea it was, and when Derek said it was his, she asked Paige and I if it was really his idea). She was on the phone when Dad went to ask her if she wanted anything, and she accused him of doing it just to embarrass her in front of her friend on the phone. She also made a few other wild accusations that I can't remember now; she wasn't really making a lot of sense TBH, which is typical for her when she's angry. Then she told us all she was 'sick of living in this white trash house' before locking herself in the bedroom for the rest of the night.
Apparently ordering Domino's makes us white trash? Classism aside, we're squarely in the center of middle-class, so I honestly have no idea what she was on about, unless she was just hurling classist slurrs in an attempt to make us feel bad.
Some notable past incidents include the time when she told me I was a 'horrible person' (I was 12 and had cleaned my room, but apparently not well enough); the time she called me a liar when I said I was upset because the 'friend' she kept inviting over for me had broken one of my CD's, covered it in shampoo, and dropped it down the laundry shoot; the time Paige was in tears because she was convinced that if she wasn't waiting in the front room when mom got home, mom would stop loving her.
She's also a bigot! Sometimes it's kind of lulzy (like when she saw nothing wrong with her statement that 'special ed kids are all really physically flexible') but most of the time it's embarrassing (like last vacation when we pulled up to the hotel and she saw there were a lot of POC around, and asked dad why he booked us at a 'colored hotel') or upsetting (like when she argued with Paige for an hour that her friend could not possibly be Christian because she was ethnically Korean and 'those people aren't Christian').
The worst part, though, is that it's just kind of...ongoing. She fights with dad at least once a week, often more. She gets angry over the most nonsensical things. She's made it pretty clear that she hates all of us, and she's only staying with dad because 'divorce is horrible for kids'. The three of us would rather they just divorce at this point =/
Anyways yeah emo time over now. Ummm I'm going to do a more fun post later this week but I can't decide if I should post about reiki or religion/faith (or both in one post?) or interpreting dreams because that came up on ontdcreepy the other day...IDK does any of y'all want to hear about anything in particular?
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Date: 2011-02-01 01:56 am (UTC)Anyway. I'm interested in ALL of that lol I didn't know you could interpret dreams!!! I missed most of the last ffac :(
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Date: 2011-02-01 03:54 am (UTC)I don't talk to my mum any more lol. I don;t even know where she lives.
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Date: 2011-02-01 04:14 am (UTC)Aww I was looking for you too :C lol I love interpreting dreams. And don't worry, I'll get to all of it eventually :D
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Date: 2011-02-01 04:20 am (UTC)That's pretty much my plan, to cut her out of my life ASAP. Even if she ever does take herself to a psychologist and get diagnosed or get help at all, I still won't have any sympathy for her =/ usually I'm very sympathetic to people with issues (being a psych student, I should be, lol) but she's just messed with our lives for too long.
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Date: 2011-02-01 05:23 am (UTC)Sorry you missed me :( I stayed around for a few pages, but I was sooooo behind, I couldn't catch up and Dave had a really bad time that night. Boo.
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Date: 2011-02-01 05:47 am (UTC)