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potato_headJUST A BIT OF GOOD NEWS FROM THIS WEEKEND
I am not actually sure if 'good news' is the right word for it? IDK IDK I AM GOING TO SHARE NOW EVERYBODY BE QUIET
During my Talk with mom and dad I asked them to stop calling for Paige and I by referring to us as 'girls/ladies' which has been going on in our household for like, forever, because we are usually in the same room (since we both sit still for long stretches of time and I tolerate-enjoy most of the shows she watches) so if they need both of us for something they'll, you know, call 'ladies' or 'girls' etc. So I said to please stop doing that.
So that was what, last weekend? And this weekend dad did it twice, but he apologized the first time and corrected himself the second. o u o
Which TBH I should not really be so surprised about, because although he claims he 'doesn't get it' he is surprisingly good about getting it. In most areas. Other examples: During the Talk he said the extended family would view me as 'a girl who is really a boy' (compare with vice versa). And um...some other sappy stuff that on second thought I would be embarrassed to repeat.
But yeah basically my dad is pretty cool. So is my brother, btw. Did I mention about the time he argued with my sister that yes, I am in fact a guy? Also, he has been randomly using male pronouns for me while we are alone. I didn't even really TALK to him. I just went up to his room because I realized everybody in the family knew except him and said 'btw I am a guy' and he was like 'kay' and seriously that is verbatim the conversation we had. And then a few weeks later he was like 'I've been thinking about that' and I was like 'WHAT. You've been what' and then we talked about how mom would be about it (this was like...last year).
Unfortunately my sister is still at critical levels of Not Getting It. Which is on the one hand kind of expected because she seems like, really determined to be ignorant about everything ever, from very important things to not so important things. She is incredibly liberal (with that righteous, idealized liberality that you often see in high schoolers and PETA clubs, and I say that as somebody who identifies as a socialist and is generally so liberal that most conservatives would probably not even invite me to their parties) but regularly sends me right-wing political jokes. As in jokes that mock liberals. And are blatantly political. And I'm like 'did you even realize this is a political joke' and she's like '...no?' and basically what I'm saying is that I'm at least grateful that she is fully educating herself on Wicca before actually doing anything and listened carefully to my screed of 'things you will tell me if they happen or will ask for my assistance/guidance before attempting'.
Okay I should probably go to class now ish. It started like ten minutes ago.
I am not actually sure if 'good news' is the right word for it? IDK IDK I AM GOING TO SHARE NOW EVERYBODY BE QUIET
During my Talk with mom and dad I asked them to stop calling for Paige and I by referring to us as 'girls/ladies' which has been going on in our household for like, forever, because we are usually in the same room (since we both sit still for long stretches of time and I tolerate-enjoy most of the shows she watches) so if they need both of us for something they'll, you know, call 'ladies' or 'girls' etc. So I said to please stop doing that.
So that was what, last weekend? And this weekend dad did it twice, but he apologized the first time and corrected himself the second. o u o
Which TBH I should not really be so surprised about, because although he claims he 'doesn't get it' he is surprisingly good about getting it. In most areas. Other examples: During the Talk he said the extended family would view me as 'a girl who is really a boy' (compare with vice versa). And um...some other sappy stuff that on second thought I would be embarrassed to repeat.
But yeah basically my dad is pretty cool. So is my brother, btw. Did I mention about the time he argued with my sister that yes, I am in fact a guy? Also, he has been randomly using male pronouns for me while we are alone. I didn't even really TALK to him. I just went up to his room because I realized everybody in the family knew except him and said 'btw I am a guy' and he was like 'kay' and seriously that is verbatim the conversation we had. And then a few weeks later he was like 'I've been thinking about that' and I was like 'WHAT. You've been what' and then we talked about how mom would be about it (this was like...last year).
Unfortunately my sister is still at critical levels of Not Getting It. Which is on the one hand kind of expected because she seems like, really determined to be ignorant about everything ever, from very important things to not so important things. She is incredibly liberal (with that righteous, idealized liberality that you often see in high schoolers and PETA clubs, and I say that as somebody who identifies as a socialist and is generally so liberal that most conservatives would probably not even invite me to their parties) but regularly sends me right-wing political jokes. As in jokes that mock liberals. And are blatantly political. And I'm like 'did you even realize this is a political joke' and she's like '...no?' and basically what I'm saying is that I'm at least grateful that she is fully educating herself on Wicca before actually doing anything and listened carefully to my screed of 'things you will tell me if they happen or will ask for my assistance/guidance before attempting'.
Okay I should probably go to class now ish. It started like ten minutes ago.
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Date: 2011-03-29 08:15 pm (UTC)"Dear Lauren (sorry, force of habit)."
Yeah that is an actual quote. Ffs.
Anyway he's a twat anyway.
But YAY for people! your sister is an idiot :-P
I'm thinking about coming out to my dad soon. *sigh* he still calls me Lauren too... if I could just get him to call me Chris... that's even gender neutral... but he's SO closed-minded. He even thinks m bisexuality is a phase, STILL. I came out to him at 16 and am now 25. How people can think things THAT ARE REAL are just a phase in their own children I do not know.
Funny thing is, he always wanted a son. I was such a disappointment for being female. I was never going to tell him until I transitioned but it doesn't look like I'll ever be well enough to so, binding, packing and passing is likely the closest I'll ever get. So I should tell him eventually... soonish... argh. I just hate being called that goddamn name. I don't talk to him often but one of the things that makes me so ill after talking to him is how he sees me. Idk.
Ack I made this ALL ABOUT MEEEE! I am so, so sorry. Your family (exc. sister?) are awesome!! YAYNESS!!
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Date: 2011-03-29 09:03 pm (UTC)Why am I rambling so badly today? No, wait, I actually know why, I have a Cold of Death, I just left class early because the air in the classroom was too dry and pretty much gave me a perpetual coughing fit. I APOLOGIZE FOR THE RAMBLING, at least I am not coughing all over you.
Anyways yeah your mom's husband sounds kind of gross. If he were just calling you Nina I would say he's uncomfortable calling you by a male name, but it sounds more like he's trying to exert his Fatherly Control over you or something. I know a friend whose mom's boyfriends always used to call him by his full name to try and 'reinforce the father/son bond'. It creeps me the hell out, personally.
Good luck with your dad. It sounds like it'll be really hard, but, then again, you never really know until it happens. *hug*
IDK if it actually helped with my dad that I think he always wanted two sons, as well, and I'm pretty much the perfect other son (my brother is an athlete; but I'm pretty smart, and also a total business geek like my dad...I legit sit around now and listen to his business calls since he works from home).
Pffft my sister. I do love her, but she's just. Not smart. Although she is a fantastic writer. I think the main problem is that she has always looked up to me, to the point that she actually thinks she is exactly like me and tries to copy my academic habits, like, you know, not studying ever and only doing half of her homework, which I could pull off because school is easy for me, but it doesn't work for her. And she basically copies a lot of the things I do, although she's finally starting to get her own identity now, I'm just afraid that's one of the reasons she's Not Getting It and that she'll have to not be as close to me before she can actually like, get it. I wish in general she would just stop trying to be me, really, because she is her own person, so maybe it would be better if she stepped back a bit.
And of course there's also my mom, who seems to be taking everything well, but I thought that about when I told her I was bi too, but now it turns out she was somehow...completely confused about that, either she forgot when I came out to her/doesn't remember it correctly (not at all out of the realm of possibilities, she sometimes comes out with completely fabricated memories) or has some incorrect understanding of bi that she never really discussed with me, which is also a possibility because when I came out her response was to tell me a long anecdote about a gay friend she had who had married a woman and now they had kids and an 'arrangement'. Instead of actually, you know, talking to me. She told me a story. IDEK what to do with her sometimes.
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Date: 2011-03-29 09:04 pm (UTC)